What are you Tolerating?


I was recently a “friend” on Holly Burger’s 2016 Intentions call.

My topic was “Pay Yourself First,” and it went way beyond putting away ten percent of your paycheck to save for the future. It was more along the lines of the airline instruction to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. As women, we are too often likely to help others at the expense of our own well-being, and in the long run, that doesn’t work too well.

One way that we can pay ourselves first is to take inventory of what we are tolerating. This can range from the box you brought home from that job you left that’s been sitting in your living room for a year (yes, true story), to the broken slat in the blinds that annoys you every time you look at it, to the way your neighbor gives you dirty looks over the fence. The purpose of this exercise is to push to the forefront of your consciousness the things that have slipped out of sight, that you no longer notice because they are always there.

The beauty of this exercise is that you don’t actually have to do anything about them! Once you make the list, once you begin noticing what you are tolerating, the items on your list start to take care of themselves. You can make your list, put it in a drawer, and I guarantee that in six months when you run across it again, at least half the items will have been taken care of.

Want to try it? Here’s a worksheet (with instructions) to get you started: WHAT ARE YOU TOLERATING

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